Parents are the most precious gift of God for humans.

Parents play the biggest role in our development.

Father & Mother play important role in our mental, physical, social, financial and career development. They help us in every step of our life. 

Part of growing up means taking more responsibility for your life and actions. But your sense of responsibility and independence may cause tension between you and your parents. However, listening to your parents and keeping a line of communication open will show them that you respect them and their wishes. Additionally, by disagreeing with your parents in a respectful way, you may be able to come to a solution that satisfies both you and your parents.

Listening to your parents:

* Avoid disrespectful body language when your parents are talking to you. Show your parents that you care by being attentive when they talk to you. ...

* Avoid interrupting your parents while they are talking. ...

* Ask for clarification.

* Avoid disrespectful body language when your parents are talking to you. Show your parents that you care by being attentive when they talk to you. Stand straight with your arms relaxed at your sides. If your parents think you are not listening, then they are more likely to get angry and assume you do not care. Examples of body language that signal a disrespectful attitude are:

Crossing your arms and looking the other way. Tapping your foot impatiently while they are talking. Rolling your eyes when you disagree with something. Staring at them aggressively, or glaring at them.

* Avoid interrupting your parents while they are talking. Let your parents say what they need to say before you respond. Don’t interrupt them in the middle of a sentence if you disagree with something they have said. Instead, wait until they have finished speaking.

Once they are finished talking, ask, “May I say something, please?”

* Ask for clarification. It is ok if you don’t understand what your parents are trying to tell you. If you find yourself in this situation, repeat back in your own words what they said to you for clarification purposes. This way, both you and your parents will be on the same page, and miscommunication is less likely to occur.

Say, for example, “What I heard is that you want me to finish my homework and chores before I hang out with my friends. Is that correct?”

• Keep them up-to-date when you are out of the house. While you are out and about with your friends, call or text your parents periodically. Let them know where you are and what you are doing, especially if your plans change. Additionally, make sure to let them know if you won’t be able to make it home at the time you said you would be.

For example, if you are at the mall with your friends and they want to go see a movie instead, text your mom or dad to see if that is ok before you head to the movies with your friends.

• Stick to the subject. If you find yourself having a conversation you do not want to have with your parents, avoid bringing up irrelevant issues to change the subject. Changing the subject seems like you are trying to hide something. If you really don’t want to talk about something at the moment, ask if you can talk about it at a later time.

Say, for example, “I know you guys really want to talk about this right now, but I don’t feel like it. Can we talk about it later?”

• Be honest. At times being honest can be really hard, especially if it means you will not get your way. By being honest from the start, however, you can build a trusting relationship with your parents. Your parents will be less likely to question your motives in the future.

For example, if your parents ask you who you are meeting at the mall, tell them the names of all the people to your knowledge.

If your parents want to know if the opposite sex will be at a party, let them know they will be, but that a parent will be chaperoning the event.

• Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. “You” statements sound accusatory and argumentative. Sounding accusatory will definitely put your parents on guard. Your parents will be much more open to what you are saying if you use “I” statements to get your point across.

For example, instead of saying, “Since I came home, you keep telling me to do my chores, but I have a lot of homework to do. Calm down!” Say, “I’m feeling pressured because I have a lot of homework to do. Once I finish my homework, I will do my chores.”

• Remain calm if you disagree. Try to avoid screaming and yelling at your parents if you disagree with a rule or something they have said. If you find yourself becoming angry, count to three in your head and take a deep breath Then respond as calmly as possible. Keep in mind that your parents just want to protect and care for you.

Yelling and screaming is a sign of disrespect that will only create a wall between you and your parents. It is also hard to listen to someone who is yelling and screaming.

• Negotiate a rule if you disagree with it. Instead of arguing over a rule you disagree with, try to explain to your parents why you think it is unfair or out of date. Tell your parents that you are open to negotiating the rule if they are.

Say, for example, “I think that limiting my hang out time with my friends to one night during the weekend is unfair if I have all of my chores and homework done. If I finish all of my chores and homework for the week, may I go out with my friends more than once during the weekend?”

• Avoid putting your parents' beliefs and ideas down. Your parents no doubt have a lot of opinions on a lot of topics, often based on their own life experiences. While you may not agree with everything they say, putting down their ideas will only create hostility between you and your parents. If you disagree with something, then explain why you disagree instead of putting them down.

For example, instead of saying, “That’s a dumb idea,” say, “I disagree with what you are saying because you are not seeing my side of the story. Can I tell you my side before you make any decisions?”...... Many More

BY: DOLLY VIRDI